Episode #4 – Craig Phoenix Tells Us How To Pick Up While Holding Down a 9-5 Job

What a great podcast.

Fresh off the plane from speaking at the Real Man Conference in Germany we invite in Craig Phoenix from directseduction.co.uk. Another old friend of the Daygame Podcast crew, Craig spoke with us at the RMC, but his talk was very unique in that he broke down how he finds the time and motivation to do daygame despite holding down a full-time stressful job.

We also talk about Craig’s own perspective on what direct game is, and how everyone should aspire towards it. We at Daygame.com couldn’t agree more, it is definitely the way to go!

Enjoy the podcast!

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Podcast Notes

Episode 4

• Topics covered
• Introducing Craig
• Having a Proactive Mentality
• Having a Passion
• Being Direct and Honest
• Being Decisive and Authoritative
• Reframing Daygame
• The Vibe of your House

Content Summary

What a great podcast.

Fresh off the plane from speaking at the Real Man Conference in Germany, we have invited in Craig Phoenix from directseduction.co.uk. Craig is another old friend of the Daygame podcast crew, who we have invited down to tell us about holding down a stressful job, and still getting time to go out and do Daygame.

We also get Craig’s perspective of what direct game is, and how everyone should aspire towards it. We at Daygame.com couldn’t agree more, as it is definitely the way to go!

As well as running directseduction.com, Craig is also the managing director of a photography company. He is definitely someone who we can all learn a lot from, in regards to balancing a high-octane job, and going out and meeting people.

There are so many opportunities that we have every single day to meet new people, and practice our Daygame. Getting on the tube to and from work everyday, our lunch breaks, and anytime that we’re generally walking somewhere, are all examples of opportunities that we have every single day to meet girls. Whenever you have to do something, if at all possibly, you should go and do it where there will be the best possible chance of meeting new people. If you want to work out, instead of staying in and doing it in your bedroom, go out and meet some people in a gym. If you’re having lunch, don’t eat in your office; go to the nearest coffee shop or restaurant. The main problem that most guys have when faced with a beautiful girl in this type of situation is the ‘there is always tomorrow’ mentality.

Most working guys try to start doing Daygame by telling themselves that after having finished work, gone home, changed, showered, eaten, and fed the cat… that then it will be time to go out and practice. The problem with this is that it gives you ample time to make excuses and change your mind. The best way to overcome this is to take some casual clothes with you to work, and go out as soon as you’re finished. Make sure that you make every moment count with whatever time you give yourself. To do this, you should go direct, and if a set isn’t going the way you’d planned, move on and start another one. Set yourself realistic targets for the time that you’re out, such as 2 numbers and an instant date in 2 hours. By pushing the boundaries like this and fighting the inertia of comfort, you will always be moving forward, and progressing.

When you are working, turn off Facebook and any other distractions, so that you can get more done, so that you won’t be worrying about anything work-related when you’re going out. By getting more work done, you’re going to be in a better mood, and without anything looming over you, you are able to leave everything behind in work, so that you can go out and just have fun. When you get out of work, you need to snap out of ‘work mode’, because you are a pickup artist hitting the streets. You need to view daygame as a treat, because that’s what it is!

If you want to be successful in both your business and dating lives, then you have to have a streamlined approach to how you are going about your day.

In regards to what attitudes you can develop, one that is often overlooked is our ability to be decisive. It’s better to make the wrong decision, that to just amble along doing nothing. Once you get a little more confident with approaching girls, you might want to try something a little more bold, such as grabbing a girls wrist and spinning her around before saying your opener. Doing something different is the only way that you are going to get better. Whatever feels congruent with your nature, whether its doing something unapologetic and bold, or just being honest and direct, you know you can do it.

The final thing I want to talk about is the vibe of your house. It’s imperative to have a clean and tidy house, as it is a reflection of the way you live. A general rule for the layout is that every room should have a centrepiece, whether it’s a TV, sofa, table or ornament. Another great idea is to have pictures and artwork that reveal a little bit about you, which people will ask you about, opening up conversations.

To conclude, be congruent, be yourself, be honest, be direct, and make sure that you make every moment of your day count. Every single one of us only has 24 hours in a day, so make them worthwhile by getting out there on the streets and meet the girl of your dreams.

I hope you all enjoyed the podcast,

Andy

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