I think without a doubt the simplest, most easiest way to start a conversation with a beautiful girl is the give her a compliment.
BUT – it has to be done in a very specific way, and most people get it completely wrong!
Well, lets see if I can explain how to do it right!
Ok, so the art of approaching women and delivering compliments correctly comes down to a couple things.
Firstly, you have to be SINCERE with your compliment. You’ve gotta mean it. If you can’t think of a single thing you appreciate about the way a girl looks, then why are you approaching her in the first place?
The key here is to not filter yourself. If you like her boots, tell her. If you like her earrings, tell her. You might just like the way she walks. The fact she’s smiling when noone else it. It seriously doesn’t matter what the compliment is, as long as it’s true.
The next important thing that will make a compliment as effective as possible, is being as specific as you can. Don’t just tell a girl she’s beautiful, tell her WHY she is beautiful. What is is specifically that makes her look great? Just think to yourself, ‘ok, what is it about this girl that i really appreciate?’.
If you notice a beautiful girl, she might stand out because of a unusual flowery coat (in the winter time!) and sexy knee high boots. She’s a beautiful girl, but the reason you noticed her in the first place was her flowery coat.
So rather than approaching her and telling her you think she’s “gorgeous”, with your newly acquired black belt in the art of approaching women you’re going to go up and compliment her on her jacket.
Now the last point that will make you a master complimenter, is to take the specific compliment and elaborate on it in a creative way. Tell her a story about her compliment. Tell her you love her jacket – you particularly love how you seemed to have wrapped yourself up in these flowers. It kind of makes you want to become a gardener. Is that what she intended? Did she wear that coat to recruit an army of gardeners? Well, her evil plan is working because you’ve never gardened in your life and here you are wanting to play with flowers all of a sudden.
This is just a spontaneous example of how you can take a compliment in a fun, creative direction.
We are going to do more videos specifically talking about how to be more spontaneous, so look out for those, but for now just remember that you shouldn’t FILTER what you say – just start saying it and see where it takes you. The important thing is that you come in with a positive, fun vibe, be honest and practise giving specific compliments and seeing how you can develop them.
Trust me, when you do this you will be amazed at the positive reactions you will start getting!
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These are some good pointers on the importance of being creative with the compliment, but I have got the most simplest of compliments “Your cute”, “Your adorable” To work a lot because of the non verbals. My facial expressions showed that she had affected me and lovestruck me. This gets her to see that I really mean what I say.
I use pauses and am in the moment. I get her full attention. I saw an article you wrote before where you emphasized showing the girl that you are mesmorized by her and it gets her to hook.
Yup, that works.
“I think you’re cute, and I couldn’t walk away without saying that.” This comes off as genuine because women know that most men do not have the balls to say that to a woman in the day time.
OK true most men do not have the balls to say anything to a good looking woman, but most men looking will think it and at the end of the day any good looking girl out for a while in the day (or night) will hear dozens or more, regular comments like ‘you’re cute’ or ‘you’re so beautiful’ etc. The girl will get a smile and go home with a big head while any one guy will be like the last dozen complimenting guys and they’ll all go home with no head …lol.
Compliment with something more creative and risky, like ‘nice hair, I wanna pull it, but I think you’d be able to kick my ass …and I just might let you …lol’
Being able to download these videos in an .mp4 format would be helpful. Great video too.
I’m going to trying being more honest with my compliments…
“You gave me a hard-on, thanks!”
I wish I could edit my comments….
FAZ just made my day with his comments haha
OT: Great video again, I think you guys should give us some excersises or techniques to get out of your head and not filter anything, I still have problems doing this when I’m not in ‘state’. I’d like to filter nothing ALL the time, but sometimes I’m even filtering things and I’m not even noticing it.
No, use this line, “stop, there’s something I’ve got to tell you! I haven’t had a hard-on in 2 days, until you walked by.”
Then tell her you have the Lion King on blue ray, that way you can seed the date (or day2) at your place.
Dude! I’m always taking girls back to mine to watch Lion King, who can resist the cute eyed Simba! Hakuna Matataaaaaaaaa
When you are getting into game, you are generally learning how to make friends. Try to stop looking at girls as girls and guys as guys, and appreciate people regardless of whether there a girl or guy. Notice the true person in people rather than there looks. However, keep in mind that girls are usually more focused on emotion, and guys are usually more focused on physical attraction. Overall, its best to try make friends with people you are naturally attracted to with some form of there personality. Its in the quality not quantity, if you know a bunch of hot people who are mean to you, its not even worth it at all. Hope this helps.
It looks like it went to Faz, but I meant the AFC Oldman, hence my user name HeyOldman.
Thanks for the advice, but I already was doing that, my problem lies in the fact that I still filter stuff with girls AND guys… like when I see a guy with a cool shirt, in the nighttime when I’m in a club I’ll tell him, cause when I go out I’m in state, but during the day I sometimes just don’t feel like saying it, thus I’m filtering it. I’m thinking: “Oh, who cares” or “That’s not good enough” etc…
That is good that you appreciate my advice. Well, sometimes I do the same too, but the trick is to not to give up and not to be critical of yourself. If someone is hard to talk to, find someone else. I look at my actions differently then what I think, if you have good intentions there is no need to worry. Also look at it this way, all these little things you say build up overtime, eventually you will become pretty good at what to say, so say it even if you don’t think it is the best you can. I think of it like this: certain types of plants can brake through rock, and so can you succeed with every little experience you have. Regardless of good or bad experience it is all good because indirectly you gain knowledge to handle these certain situations. As always, I hope this helps.
I must say, until I had an afternoons’ coaching on the streets of London with Andy and Yad a couple of weeks ago, I don’t really think I had believed it was possible for an average guy to stop the most beautiful girl in a busy shopping centre, high street, coffee shop etc.. and every time (in my case) get a positive and friendly reaction.
Using the simple techniques they taught me, including the ones in this video, my confidence grew during the day to the point where my approach anxiety had just vanished.
I can’t thank you enough guys !!
Thanks you guys! I really enjoyed this video and I went out on my college campus and tried it on a few girls and it totally works..they were actually hooked onto the conversation and they were asking me the questions instead of me asking them
Thanks for the great video!
Your Friend,
Eddys Velasquez
You guys are so off-base… this approach plain sucks!
You are so focused in the wrong direction and all this will get you is about a 3 second conversation that will go nowhere. What are you a fashion designer that needs her pointers on what she’s wearing? Straight guys don’t worry about what boots or jacket the girl is wearing! Give me a break. And every girl and her mother have heard and seen this approach and will blow you off as just another chump not worth their time. You’d actually be better off asking for directions.
Good luck to your fans who are lame enough to think this approach is worth anything.
And I especially like the end of the video where you guys hold hands and skip off together… Why don’t you guys grow some balls and try approaching girls for real instead of trying to be cute.
Great advice guys! This site is f’n awesome. It’s about time someone created a site solely based on meeting women in a more realistic setting aka the DAY time.
It’s just ashame to see that there are guys out there who feel the need to post negative comments onto a site that was ultimately created to help improve people’s lives in a POSITIVE way. I guess it just goes to show you how some guys feel the need to resist the truth about the correct way to connect with the opposite sex! Ah man…I’ll tell ya, the male ego is a bastard! hahaha
Anyways…AWESOME SITE GUYS!!!
Gilly, think about it for a second. How many times will a great looking woman be given the same boreing and generic approaches like “you look cute” or “you look stunning.” They will imediately file you away as another same old guy, nothing new.
I can understand what you’re saying about complementing on their dress sense not being original but that’s not the important part of the compliment; the elaboration is. Making the compliment about something ordinairy like clothes and then elaborating and making a witty image from it, something off the wall will really grab the girls attention and gives you loads f places to go from there and also sets you apart from every other guy who has approached her and got shot down.
In a way it deals with “frames”. This girl has been approached by so many guys with the same compliment who turned out to be loser ect that girl straight away assumes when you approach that you are the same. By being off the wall with your compliments and elaborating you are breaking this frame and catching her totaly of guard.
Wow that was an essay!
Seems to be some controversy on this approach. I would like to see a live example of this from either of these guys. A few in fact. I can see the viewpoints of both the proponents and the opponents of this as I can’t help but think there’s a real possibility of both outcomes of the girl thinking that you’re interesting for giving her such an unusual compliment, or thinking you’re just some lame weirdo for coming up to her with some bizarre compliment about her. Although, I would think you’re better off without the latter as that probably indicates she has too high an opinion of herself (in other words, is a bitch).
This absolutely works. Anyone doubting it, or who needs to see approaches of it can get lost. If you’re not even willing to try it out then it wont work for you anyway.
I don’t think this has much to do with frames. There’s much more than just that, it’s unfair to make it that black and white.
Love this site!
FAZ- That was so funny. Thanks man.