I personally think this is going to be one of the most popular videos on this entire site.
Because once you realise that going up to a girl and starting a conversation is infact very easy, you’ll then realise that the hard part is actually continuing the conversation!
It doesn’t take long to master the approach – but it’s the transition (or ‘bridge’ as we call it) that gets most guys vocal cords in a twist.
So many people think the art of picking up women is knowing the best openers. I’ve lost count the amount of guys who ask me what the best opener to use is. The opener really isn’t important! Me and Yad like to open with compliments. Easy to do, and if done in the right way is a great way to start a conversation.
But we know that the opener is just that; and ‘opener’. It just starts the conversation. Now we’ve started it, we need to know where to take it from here.
The REAL art of picking up women is knowing how to TRANSITION.
Me and Yad call this phase of the interaction The Bridge, because it takes you from where she isn’t sure if she wants to talk to you (or flat out doesn’t), over to where she DOES want to talk to you. The space inbetween is the bridge.
Has this happened to you before?
You see a beautiful girl, you approach, you open with a compliment, she is surprised and flattered and says thank you.
Then there’s a pause.
“Emergency! Emergency! Scramble all brain cells, repeat, scramble all brain cells! This is not a drill! This is NOT a drill!”
But your grey matter is on holiday.
Nothing in your mind but an acute sense of panic.
Finally you say the only thing that you can squeeze out of your cranium:
“So…. what are you up to?”
She looks towards the direction she was originally heading in, turns back to you and says “I’m really sorry but I’m in a bit of a rush, I really have to go. It was nice meeting you.”
And it’s over.
Because you tried to transition using a question; and a big open ended one at that!
The Bridge is simple, but so very effective. Here’s how it goes. This is the where the art of picking up women is at.
The bridge is made up of statements. Statements that YOU make.
It’s only through making statements that you can demonstrate your personality, your character and thus your value as a man. You aren’t going to demonstrate anything by just asking her a series of questions.
And there’s a simple way to turn all your questions into statements, and that is by making ASSUMPTIONS about her. Think ‘cold reading’, except it doesn’t matter too much if you’re accurate. The cool thing about making an assumption about someone is that if you get it wrong, they will feel compelled to correct you. If you get it right, they will feel compelled to tell you so. Either way, you’re prompting an answer out of them, but by making a value based statement – rather than a value-devoid question.
Very powerful stuff. Half the battle of being able to attract women is about being able to talk, and keep talking, and with this rule, you will be a master of the art of picking up women!
One last thing for you guys to remember when practising this is what I call the Conversational Safety Net.
If ever you think you’re getting stuck, and you can’t think of anything to say, remember this: Statement, question, statement, question, statement, question etc.
The statement you make (if you’ve run out of assumptions), is just about the last thing that she said. If you remember this rule, you will NEVER run out of things to say ever again, because you can just make a statement about the last thing she said – no matter what it is!
I hope this helps guys,
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