How To Make Her Seduce You

It is incredibly validating when a woman laughs at your jokes and responds positively to the energy you are throwing at her. It makes you think “holy ****, she likes me. Keep doing what you’re doing!”.

And it’s a trap that you will fall in to.

You will approach with a lot of energy, she will love you, and you won’t want to ‘give up’ this energy for fear of losing her attention.

You are afraid that if you stop doing all you can to keep all eyes on you then she will grow bored and walk off. You think the only reason she is attracted to you is because of the high energy things you are doing.

And she will notice this ‘insecurity’ in the way you are maintaining an unusually high energy towards the interaction. She will get the ‘sense’ that you are TRYING a bit too much. And as soon as she starts to notice this, her attraction to you will start to dwindle. She will start looking around, or at her watch, and start making excuses to leave. And if you manage to get her number, it will flake.

So how do we move past this?

Once you admit to yourself that you are afraid of her ‘rejection’, you need to LET GO of the result. Before you develop the confidence of your own masculinity and attractiveness that is present all the time (without all the extraverted energy), you will need to do things that will feel counterintuitive.

As the interaction moves forward, you need to start REDUCING the amound of energy you are putting in. So you start off in the usual way, and captivate her with your powerful vibe, but then after a few minutes, you start to calm down. Relax. Stop CHASING HER, and let her COME TO YOU now. We wan to arrive at a point in the interaction where you are behaving like you are just having a calm chat with a friend. You’re not trying to impress her anymore and your not reacting to her more than you would react to a friend.

You will start to notice HER putting more energy into the interaction.

She will feel a LOSS, and will want to fill the space with HER energy.

Now she is investing. And the more she invests, the more attracted she will feel towards you.

The tables have turned.

And if she is a very attractive woman, it will have been a long time since she has had the opportunity to feel like she was ‘doing the work’ when talking to a guy. She would have been used to guys doing ALL the work ALL the time whenever they interacted with her, which gets boring very quickly. Finally she has a chance to ‘see what she can do’.

Go out there and give it a try, you’ll be amazed by how much further you can get by DOING LESS.