Shops closing, sun setting, street lights shining, pubs and bars opening. Isn’t that the end of “daygame” each evening?
The term “daygame” actually refers to any situations where you meet and attract girls outside of a bar / club environment, so just because it’s getting dark doesn’t mean that you have to call it a day.
We’re not suggesting you hang around dark alleys or back streets to jump in front of unsuspecting girls, but rather hit the “strip” in your city where girls go out at night for fun. Think neon lights and giggly girls in heels.
Night street daygame (or “gutter game” as I affectionately call it) uses the same Blueprint approach to stopping, hooking and closing girls but there are certain key differences to normal daylight interactions:
- Your energy needs to be higher (as the girls are out to have fun) so the Attraction Phase is key, with extra teasing and banter
- The interactions can be more sexual and direct, with emphasis on filtering the girls to see if they’re up for a bounce to a bar or home
- It’s much easier to do it with a friend (wing) who’s at your daygame level, so you can approach two girls together (lone girls are not common at night)
- You’re not looking for a phone number – the idea is to take the girls there and then either to a bar for a drink or back to yours. It’s excellent for practicing escalation.
- Be prepared for lots of near-misses and funny situations. The night is very unpredictable because of things like alcohol, her friends blocking her (cock-blocks), competition from other guys etc.
- Fast bouncing home (looking for a “Same Night Lay”) is risky because it generates a lot of Last Minute Resistance
So I was sitting In Madrid airport yesterday after having a few sunny days topping up the tan and I got some bad news; my flight back to London had been delayed for six hours. Great.
With that in mind, I thought that I could either sit around bored for those hours, or take action and have some fun.
I went over to the information desk first and saw if I could find out anything about my flight. While in line, I could hear the four people in front of me shouting and being rude to the information staff. I thought I’d take a different approach and see if I could cheer her up after all the annoying people she got.
As I approach I see a long dark haired, tanned girl. Nice! Ok, let’s try to make her look a little less pissed off. “Hello lovely, how are you today?”
I speak to her in a cheeky way, holding strong eye contact and lots of smiling. We quickly create our own bubble of conversation, me teasing her about not doing any work and her telling me about what she likes to do for fun.
She told me that she was glad I came to talk to her as no one ever takes time to have a real conversation with her. We ended up exchanging details, she asked me to call her when I was next in town, and we double-cheek kissed to say goodbye.
By using the skills I’ve learnt at Daygame.com, I managed to turn my boring six hour wait into something a lot more fun. Situations like this are always around, but by having the right mentality and taking action, you can easily turn a boring wait into a fun social interaction.
Tom has also just made a video on taking action and not just mental masturbation…you can check it out here.
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Ok, so the title’s not strictly true, but check out this video to explain my rant against the buffers we put up to avoid taking action.
Remember the 90% – 10% principle of practice versus theory. Let this blog and website be the 10% roadmap you need to get you going!
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It’s all systems go for daygame.com at the moment….no rest for the wicked 2013 looks set to be the Year of the Tipping Point for us, when we can confidently say that what we do and what we believe in has gone global.
CEO and founder Andy Yosha is doing his USA / Canada bootcamp tour with the legendary grand master Yad. Myself and Jon Matrix are teaching the London bootcamps as well as training in Oslo and Prague in the next few weeks.
This year I’ve taught students in LA, New York, Sydney, Melbourne, Brisbane, Moscow, Prague, Riga, Amsterdam, Istanbul, Paris and Helsinki. What they’ve shown me is that the fundamental principles of meeting and attracting women during the day are truly universal and globally applicable.
Biologically, men are men and women are women. The dating and mating strategies that we follow are hard wired into us – the product of billions of years of evolution. Sure, there are cultural differences which mean that the Daygame Blueprint has to be tweaked, but the underlying laws of attraction and seduction remain the same.
Andy’s approached girls in the Ukranian winter temperatures of -20′C. Yad and Martin have been chatting up bikini-clad girls in the sweltering heat of Copacabana beach. I’ve stopped veiled girls in the souks of Turkey or on bicycles in Holland. We even got a phone number close on the top of New York’s Empire State Building.
The bottom line is that our method for daytime dating works everywhere. And men around the world are joining forces to give it a go. We’ve been humbled to teach so many students in so many different countries who’ve gone on to make radical changes to their lives – not just with regards to dating but to their health, fashion, fitness, work and confidence. Daygame is a a door into a whole world of potential transformations.
There’s now groups of guys hitting the streets for daygame in most big cities around the world. From the cobbled lanes of Prague to the glitzy malls of Moscow, men have come up to me and told me about the successes they’ve been having and the societies they’re creating.
Can it get “too popular” or will women start to “find out?” These are common questions that I’m getting asked more and more. The questions themselves are not valid if daygame is seen for what it really is – helping men to be honest and direct with their intentions. It’s not about tricks or manipulation. We’re not robots delivering lines or trying to hide what we’re doing. Going for what you want and seeing daygame as a win-win activity that makes the world a better place is a key mindset to adopt.
Leave a comment about where you are in the world and how daygame’s developing in your town or city. Let the global revolution begin – where day really is the new night.
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As we’ve often said, Daygame is always win-win. Even interactions that don’t lead anywhere in terms of a result will almost always leave both parties better off. You give her a compliment, she feels appreciated – She feels good, you feel good. Once you understand this fundamental principal and start seeing Daygame as giving rather than taking, the pressure that one may feel in terms of an outcome is gone. You get her number, you don’t get her number, she likes you, she doesn’t like you – you don’t really care either way. At the very least you made you and her both feel good.
Here is an excerpt from Dale Carnegie’s famous best selling book “How to Win Friends and Influence People” that I think really sums this point up -
” I was waiting in line to register a letter in the post office at Thirty-third Street and Eighth Avenue in New York. I noticed that the clerk appeared to be bored with the job -weighing envelopes, handing out stamps, making change, issuing receipts – the same monotonous grind year after year. So I said to myself: “I am going to try to make that clerk like me. Obviously, to make him like me, I must say something nice, not about myself, but about him.
So I asked myself, ’What is there about him that I can honestly admire?’ ” That is sometimes a hard question to answer, especially with strangers; but, in this case, it happened to be easy. I instantly saw something I admired no end. So while he was weighing my envelope, I remarked with enthusiasm: ”I certainly wish I had your head of hair.” He looked up, half-startled, his face beaming with smiles. “Well, it isn’t as good as it used to be,” he said modestly. I assured him that although it might have lost some of its pristine glory, nevertheless it was still magnificent. He was immensely pleased. We carried on a pleasant little conversation and the last thing he said to me was: ”Many people have admired my hair.” I’ll bet that person went out to lunch that day walking on air. I’ll bet he went home that night and told his wife about it. I’ll bet he looked in the mirror and said: “It is a beautiful head of hair.”
I told this story once in public and a man asked me afterwards: ”‘What did you want to get out of him?” What was I trying to get out of him!!! What was I trying to get out of him!!! If we are so contemptibly selfish that we can’t radiate a little happiness and pass on a bit of honest appreciation without trying to get something out of the other person in return – if our souls are no bigger than sour crab apples, we shall meet with the failure we so richly deserve. Oh yes, I did want something out of that chap. I wanted something priceless. And I got it. I got the feeling that I had done something for him without his being able to do anything whatever in return for me. That is a feeling that flows and sings in your memory lung after the incident is past.
There is one all-important law of human conduct. If we obey that law, we shall almost never get into trouble. In fact, that law, if obeyed, will bring us countless friends and constant happiness. But the very instant we break the law, we shall get into endless trouble. The law is this: Always make the other person feel important. John Dewey, as we have already noted, said that the desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature; and William James said: “The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.” As I have already pointed out, it is this urge that differentiates us from the animals. It is this urge that has been responsible for civilization itself. ”
Go on make her day….
If you want to learn how to make a girls day the right way check out our fantastic Daygame primer – Date Against the Machine. You’ll learn all the Daygame techniques from Tom and Jon, everything from grooming and fashion to how to stop a girl in the street. Also included are 3 full infield videos of Tom, Jon and Yad. It’s the perfect product for getting started with Daygame.
Aaawwww yeah! Me and Yad are hitting Canada for the first time ever! I can’t wait
If you want to join, make sure you contact our bootcamp manager Bryan immediately to grab your spot!
Next video from me will be with Yad stateside, talk to you then!
Here’s a clip from our awesome Daygame Blueprint program where Yad and I discuss how we first met, and how I got Daygame.com started.
If you want to see the rest of this video, and learn everything there is about Daygame, you need to check out the Daygame Blueprint. It’s our most advanced program, and has over 20 hours of epic information, all in high definition just for you
Hey guys, a common problem among my students is they are being way too picky. If you want to get great at daygame you need to practice talking to as many women as you can until you feel comfortable. Don’t be picky until you are getting consistent results! If you still feel the pain of a rejection, then you haven’t been rejected enough.
It sucks when you are starting out and rejections really hurt. You need to harden yourself to rejection to the point where it actually becomes fun to be rejected. When you stop caring about the outcome you will find women are way more attracted to you.
With many years of experience I have developed my own laid back style of Daygame. Check out my product – Effortless Infield where you’ll see me approaching super attractive women on the streets of London, Oslo and New York.
Jon Matrix and Sam break down the first 10 seconds of a daygame approach and explain why it’s so important.
Imagine this – You approach a girl and 30 seconds into the interaction she asks you “What is it that you want, are you trying to sell me something?” Something is wrong here, you didn’t communicate to her effectively what you wanted.
When done correctly the the girl will smile before we’ve even opened our mouths. This is achieved through good eye contact and a cheeky smile. Once the girl is smiling, she knows what your intentions are and it’s 3/4 of the work done.
To see this in action with live approaches on the streets of London by Jon Matrix check out Effortless Infield – 15 infield videos with detailed break down on the sofa with Tom and Jon. Single girls, 2 girls, 3 girls, instant dates and kiss closes. Learn from the best in the business.
UPDATE: Andy’s just told me that the winner will also receive a copy of Effortless Infield and The Yad Show Advanced Infield Series!
Your task is simple: approach 7 girls for every day for the next 7 days. That’s it, 7:7.
Why 7? Well that’s how many girls a beginner should approach to get around 1 set of contact details. If repeated for 7 days, that’s 7 phone numbers in a week and 1 date set up for sure.
I’m hoping this gives you the following:
- A kick up the arse into taking action!
- Short term (daily) and long term (weekly) momentum
- An abundance mentality
- An excuse to get away from washing the dishes / revising / watching X Factor
After taking the challenge leave your data below with a summary of your week. Be honest – no bragging – the more “failures” the better as it is these that will self-correct your daygame over time. I’ll choose one guy to get a copy of the book who I think has been the most dedicated and has pushed himself the hardest. It’s not about winning….as my mum said, it’s the taking part that counts
If you’re new to this and want to get a roadmap for the Daygame structure (Blueprint) that we use then check out a product I filmed with Jon Matrix called Date Against The Machine. With live infield hidden camera footage we show you how to get started at daygame, from stopping the girl to getting her details and taking her on a date.
Tom and Jon hit the merry streets of Amsterdam for some natural highs after teaching a bootcamp there last weekend.
To learn how to do this yourself check out “Date Against The Machine” – a two hour programme that breaks down what they’re doing from start to finish with live infield hidden camera videos. For the price of a few cocktails, discover how you’ll never need to chat-up girls in bars or clubs again!
Sometimes trying to help isn’t the best thing to do. Sometimes you just have to sit back and listen to her. She wants to feel loved and understood. She doesn’t want advice, or for you to even help her, she just needs to feel understood and that you listened to her. Which this frustrated guy finds out in this funny clip.
By the way, if you’re interested in learning more about daygame (that’s why you’re here right?) Then you will want to check out Date Against The Machine. It’s a concise 2 hour product which goes through exactly what to do to meet and attract and girl on the streets. It’s cheap as chips, so check it out
We’re back! This time in frosty Amsterdam for the third episode of The Yad Show.
A city where anything goes, Yad and I roam around soaking up the Amsterdam eXXXperience. A place where everyone seems to be riding bikes, we thought it would be a good idea to get Yad to show you his daygame skills whist on one. Although blocking her path with a bike is a bit more tricky, it turns out to be a lot of fun and watching Yad do it is very funny! Take caution if you want to give it a go
We meet lots of lovely open minded girls, and watch as Yad takes a cute blonde girl for an istant date. There’s even Yad showing off some of his football skills.
If you want to check out full infields of Yad and see exactly how he gets girls attracted to him, then you will want to check out the Advanced Series of The Yad Show. There’s even a FREE one for you to watch right away!
Man it’s been a while since I’ve been sat infront of the camera on my own, but it’s good to be back. Expect to see my beautiful face and girly hair alot more often from now on
So – ANNOUNCING the Yosha & Yad American/Canada Summer Bootcamp Tour! *and breath* Exactly what it says on the tin, me and Yad are going to be sweeping across America and Canada, leaving a wake of changed dating lives (and very satisfies women) behind us.
All is explained in the video – if you’re interested in being one of the lucky guys to be part of the tour, nomatter what city in the US or Canada you’re in, email our Bootcamp Manager Bryan now to see if we can organise a bootcamp in your city.
Some more videos for you to check out:
10 Commandments Of The Best Bootcamp In The World – Me and Jon filmed a walk round Hyde Park in London as we take you through the 10 things we include on our bootcamps that make it crazy awesome (that nearly all other bootcamps don’t have)
The Daygame Bootcamp Documentary – Check out this documentary we filmed taking you on a journey with 6 students through the intense experience of the Daygame.com Infield bootcamp.
The Bootcamp Information Video – If you’re interested in learning more about the actual Daygame.com bootcamp process, click the link above to watch a video of Andy taking you through the entire bootcamp process.
Thanks for watching – I look forward to meeting you in US/Canada soon!
In the Bank Holiday London sunshine yesterday I taught one of the most inspiring students I’ve met since becoming a coach. Disabled after an accident in his early twenties, Mr M now uses a wheelchair to get about. We hit the streets together and immediately I was struck by his positivity and cheekiness.
Sparkling eyes, quick-witted and a natural teaser, I watched with a big grin as he number closed two of the hottest girls I’ve seen in London for a while, one after the other.
It got me thinking about the excuses we all make as to why we don’t take action and approach girls that we like during the day. A while back I wrote down the most common ones that we hear students say on the bootcamps, and the ones that have popped into my head when I was learning the skill-set.
Have a look at the list below and see which ones resonate the loudest with you. Next time they pop into your head as you’re thinking about leaving the house or you’re on the street, recognise them for what they are – excuses – and override them by taking action. Reality is what we make it.
- I’m too ugly / short / tall / fat / thin for her to like me
- She’s walking too fast
- People are watching me
- She’s going to “reject me”
- I’m not in state – I need a coffee / sit-down
- She’s not hot enough, I’ll wait for the next one
- She’s gone into a shop, it’s harder in there
- She’s too beautiful to like me
- She’s too tall
- She looks angry
- She’s listening to her ipod / texting – I’m disturbing her
- She’s with a friend / her mum
- There’s not enough space to stop her
- I don’t have the right clothes on to do daygame
- She’s English / American / Japanese etc and therefore “harder”
Write below any other common excuses that pop into your head as you’re daygaming and realise that these “limiting beliefs” are a form of self-sabotage in that your mind is talking you out of it. You have the power to identify these thoughts and override them, which is the real definition of freedom. Enough excuses, go take action!
Want a concise, easy-to-implement overview of the Daygame Blueprint with live hidden camera street examples? Check out our product Date Against The Machine where we give you the complete roadmap from how to stop her to how to get her on a date. With infields from Jon, Yad and I, it’s the perfect primer for getting started!