What I truly believe though is that whatever stage you are at, however much you think you should getting better results, however frustrated you are with your progress, you are right where you need to be.

You can’t just jump from AA to no AA, in fact there are plenty of stages in between and each one is like a rung on a ladder you are climbing. You need each previous step to get to the next one.

Was that him? I think he had 3 kills 8 deaths or something. He was a big noob.

Tom and John, when is AA replaced with presence??!!

the infield recording was amazing!!!

keep it up guys

The article says that it’s a very powerful thing to have, as people will like you and agree to things without knowing why. It’s very hard to explain, but it’s magical.

Watch clips of someone like Hugh Grant or Clooney and you’ll see what I mean.

OK, great!

Then I’d love to hear Andy’s, Yad’s, Sasha’s, or even James Marshall’s or Jason Savage’s opinion on “flirtatious” things like

“you just see her going into the bubble [...] just take your phone, check your phone, you put it down, and you say: ‘I’m really sorry, I have to leave’. It feels terribe”,

or about things like

“if a girl starts testing me really heavily, I just look at her, I sing: ‘I believe I can fly’, and then they start repeating what they’re saying and they do so much, ‘no but did you hear what I said, this club is really shit’- ‘I believe I can…’, it just makes them feel so weird”

and how all this goes along with being a “win-win process”, and a “positive environment for everyone to learn and grow.”

I’d LOVE to hear their opinin about this, and I’m sorry that I have to say that, but in MY opinion, it’s nothing more than embarrassing, disgusting and immature. Sorry Tom.

I can testify that neither Mr A, or anyone involved in daygame.com uses manipulative tricks to get girls into bed. “Game” is a dance, not a boxing match, and the girl is enjoying the flirtation too. It’s always a two way, win-win process. I don’t even like the “alpha” references….it’s more like a beautiful bubble created by the guy and the girl. To assume that girls can be tricked into bed is suggesting that they don’t know what’s happening, that they are passive. In all my field experience, this has never been the case. Women love daygame, dating and any sex/relationships that follow.

yeah yeah yeah

Mr A here with a quick clarification on some things. A podcast is usually quick and dirty and you can never put everything in the right context. I apologise if I confused some people here and there. Cheers for all the great comments!

Just to set the record straight: I am very direct and I think that most guys aren’t as direct as I am; the first thing Beckster said to me when we met back in the days was: “You escalate heavily, but that’s not really a problem.”

Firstly, I can understand why some people would think that some tips I gave sound manipulative. The fact is that you will meet women that are rude (manipulative) and if you have no way of dealing with their behaviour you will get manipulated. So credo is the following for me: adapt or be manipulated. Maybe some of you remember going on a date with a woman and she flaked on you 10min before the date, or she arrived with a friend and was 30min late, or she gave you a quick time constraint once you met (sorry, I can only stay 1h), or she keeps checking her phone and taking phone calls all the time. If you can relate to that then you a) have made some experience and you are on your way and b) you know that I am realistic. Experience tells you what kind of behaviour you can expect from a woman. As soon as I see a behaviour surfacing I will adapt; I adapt, I don’t manipulate that’s a big difference. If, say, a girl gave me a 1h time constraint on a date (that’s rude in my eyes because I set time aside to meet her and I am a busy man) then I will simply cut the date even shorter and do something else instead (let’s say cut it after 30min). I will take a phone call and excuse myself in a friendly way. That’s not manipulation, that’s knowing my personal boundaries and giving her the chance to realise that I am not the kind of guy that she can play with. If she comes out, she is out with me: no games and no tricks. If she starts playing games I show her implicitly or explicitly what my boundaries are and give her one more chance to behave like an adult. If she chooses to not behave like an adult, I am out. That’s clear and grown up behaviour. It has nothing to do with manipulation, but with knowing your boundaries as a person.

Secondly, I mention at the very end that I don’t believe in a structured approach to interacting with women. What you really want is to be totally present and to be with the girl and most importantly to be genuine, real and to be yourself. (For beginners: please try out everything in the book. get a structure, get lines, follow whatever you think will work. Time will let you get rid of most lines and structure, but that takes practice. Most guys have to learn a bit of “game” in order to unlearn it all later.) However, I suggest to FOCUS PURELY ON EMOTIONS and to think of the interaction in terms of you and her sharing a beautiful moment together. As long as you and her feel good it is mutually on. All theory and technique go right out the window as soon as you both ENJOY THE INTERACTION.

It is my character to be cheeky-chappy/dirty-flirty/cocky-funny and it is my strenght as well. Obviously, calibration comes into play: some girls are higher energy and they would much rather have a wild adventure than talking about art exhibitions or interesting books. And again, depending on the girl I can tone down or dial up my energy and the conversational topics, including the intent and directness I think is apropriate. I am best with high energy and fun loving girls. However, I have to enjoy the girls presence and I have to like her to keep the interaction going. Some you like and others you don’t; that’s the nature of the game. It is important to realise that we are all different people and everyone enjoys different aspects of life. At the end of the day you can’t cheat your way into someones heart. People start liking each other for different reasons and all that matters is that you are happy to be around the girl and that she is happy being around you. I personally would like my daughter to be happy. Who cares whether the guy she likes is a real “alpha male”. If you are a silver back gorilla then that’s cool with me as well. There is some monkey ladies out there who are just looking for that. Russains or Eastern Europeans in general are more likely to enjoy the “alpha” stuff. As a matter of fact, if I was to interact with a Russian girl, I become much more direct, leading and dominating. I dial down the jokes and focus on genuine deep rapport. That’s adaption. But one warning for all the “pure alpha males” or “M1 followers” is the following: be careful that you never forget to love what you are doing…. WOMEN

As usual, it’s been emotional, don’t change

Mr A.

andres.re10@gmail.com

The moment you see sex as just one of life’s pleasures, like eating, sleeping or doing a hobby you love, then the whole thing just becomes fun.

“Life willl pay me back”?? I don’t believe in religion or karma. The world could end tomorrow, enjoy the ride, and stop writing internet threats Ralf. Jesus is watching you

He talks about “spiking her out of the bubble” with some stupid C&F. LOL, I just thought of Sean Connery or any other REAL MAN doing that LOL

No not LOL. It’s too painful to laugh about that

:’-(

And then… “you just see her going into the bubble [...] just take your phone, check your phone, you put it down, and you say: ‘I’m really sorry, I have to leave’. It feels terribe” – wasn’t that what Mr A said?

You may call that “intent” and “going for it”. I call it “manipulative bullshit”.

Another example:

“if a girl starts testing me really heavily, I just look at her, I sing: ‘I believe I can fly’, and then they start repeating what they’re saying and they do so much, ‘no but did you hear what I said, this club is really shit’- ‘I believe I can…’, it just makes them feel so weird”

Let’s be honest Snazzy: is this the kind of behaviour you would expect from a MAN, a REAL MAN, a man you would respect? Or is it the behaviour of some little 16 year old boy, using some stuipd insecure asshole behaviour to get girls into bed?

Snazzy, let me ask you a question.

If you had a little daughter, would you like her to be treated like this?

Which ppart of this podcast tells you to use “manipulative bullshit”?

Mr A talks about intent and going for it, not using “techniques” or a model. How is that manipulative? Sasha teaches a shit load of lines and routines, making his “direct” approach dancing monkey.

This dude is just giving his opinion…doesn’t mean it’s the philosophy of daygame.com

I think first and foremost we’re in this to learn how to be our best self. And learning to be honest is a big big aspect of this.

Tom – I don’t mind to critisize you, but sometimes I get the feeling that you’re giving the whole “sleeping with girls” thing a WAY to high priority…

I miss Sasha. I miss Andy.

:’-(

is THAT really the new philosophy of daygame.com?

How to trick girls into bed using manipulative bullshit?

Where is Andy and – where is Sasha??? I miss them. Both.

:’-(

Mr A

Jurgen

1 – Kiss close on street or after an instant date – DON’T DO IT IF YOU LIKE THE GIRL AND WANT TO SEE HER AGAIN. These kiss closes are for show only and even if it works and you kiss her the chances of her wanting to see you again are very slim.
If you actually end up kissing her, she did it because she felt it “in the moment” but once she starts to think about it after and rationalise what happened she will start to feel bad about it.
I only went for a kiss close in that instance because I was being watched by students, I knew the set was dead and I thought there was no reason not to, I was pretty sure it wasn’t gonna work but I did it anyway.

2 – Going for a kiss in general – 100% don’t verbalise it. To do a kiss close on the street in the manner above when you are not really close to the girl you almost have to take a gamble and verbalise it, you can’t just lean in and go for it when there has been no escalation or build up to it. But this is an exceptional circumstance.
At any other time, you should never verbalise a kiss. 60 years of challenge is spot on. A kiss moment will build, starting out with good sexual eye contact and a bit of kino. You just have to learn to see when the right moment presents itself.

It’s a common misconception that you have to be sexual or escalate on the street (popularised by Mode 1). I slept with this girl (after 2 dates plus the i-date) because I followed a plan:

1. Get her feeling comfortable on the street so she comes on an i-date quickly
2. Make intent known in pub through non-verbals, light kino and some small spikes (we discussed attitudes to sex in Brazil, hostel shags etc.)
3. Kiss her on d2 in cocktail bar
4. Escalate when I was in her flat cooking…on sofa, then in bedroom. F-close.

Escalating in the wrong place (especially on the street) achieves nothing. The whole “she blew me out but at least I was Mode 1″ mindset is wrong, as we’re in this to sleep with girls, not theorise.

Hope that helps,

TT

“It would be cool if 2 strangers kissed on the street”. Isn’t John just asking to be rejected there? He’s verbally announcing he’s gonna kiss her which then gives her brain enough of a warning to set off her auto-response rejection – he’s already subtly told her he knows its not the done thing and she knows it to. Her auto ‘niggle’ will kick in. I’ve always had a problem with this kiss routine. of Yad’s.

Other than that, nice to listen to.

I really thought this one was nice and personal and had some interesting content, especially regarding stuff you should have at home and cleaning your crap up! I think looking after your place gives you a sense of pride and is a reflection of yourself. Every part of your life you improve on is reflected in your game.

Nice infield audio at the end too. Well done John for sticking in set.. I’m sure most of us would have wanted to have bailed earlier on!

Zan

shit man, i gotta tell you, i am a great fan of david x, the guy got attitude… if you noticed all he has to say i just “who cares what they think!?” cause that is what men is should be all about, fuck it and the hell with the world.

One question, aren’t you afraid of giving the girl too much value by saying she is ”fucking beautiful” or ”one of the hottest girls I’ve seen”? Is it not bad to give her that much value at the beginning of a conversation?

Thank you, keep it up. Love this site!!

Thnx Alan for cutting thru the bull shit. Have you released your Mode 1 book as an audio yet?

Your 9% stat is very similar to what Paul Janka gets in NYC (10%), that’s so cool!

What about the near misses or same day lays? Any light on that would be awesome man!

Remember that, deep down, the girls know what’s going on. They’ll often initiate the swap too after they both do girl-talk in the bathroom.

It’s not so much as a “game” as a dance

@Robert:
You’re right mate, getting the number on the street is just the first piece of the puzzle. My forthcoming product is all about what to do on dates (instant dates, day2s, day3s) in terms of charged comfort, attraction spikes and seduction escalation. Watch this space.

How many girls did you approach on a daily basis?

if you could get the statistics for 2012 that would be really helpful for us all

Tom Torero could you also records yad’s and john states for 2012?

- big! thanks in advance

Robert

PS – heard you mention something about “charged comfort” in one of your old videos. If you can explain where that fits in the interaction that would be great! Thank you.

instead of doing a product on dates which is a bit lame, because if a girl goes on a date, it means she wants to get seriously banged! so you don’t really need game for that.

you could instead do a product on

“how to game 2 sets”

p.s. btw awesome post!!

pardon my English

No, I don’t have empirical evidence supporting his success, but Im positive he is very succesful.

Who cares? What works for one might not work for the other, giving it a name is futile because it won’t change the essence of it all. Sometimes I feel that people are so skewed in their perception of direct’game’-being a Spanish Don Juan telling a girl that you want to fuck her right of the spot, and indirect ‘game’-being a ‘weak’ guy using gimmicks to ‘trick her’. Whatever man, we all have a different interpretation and everybody is right. Let it rest and keep on going with what works for you.

With heavy discussions like this, illustrating a rather rigid mentally towards proper labeling of different ‘versions’ of game I sometimes wonder how people can be free flowing with women in your direct – or indirect game if they still try to put everything in their ‘correct’ mental box.

Merry Christmas and a happy new year guys.

It may also be that beauty is a devalued currency over there. Here beauty is rare and therefore more valuable.

Merry Christmas, guys.

Keep it up.

There’s many reasons why a girl might label you “creepy”…touching her, your words, your vibe. Hard staring with your eyes is another one, which is clearly not recommended. Think soft and subtle. Start slowly…just gazing into her eyes for a few seconds. Build it up as you get better, but always do it in a gentle, playful way.

Hope that helps,
TT

One question though, I seem to always be able to maintain strong eye contact, but sometimes I hear I come across a bit ‘creep (Im not staring at her or anything) and Im guessing this has to do with overly strong eye contact. What’s you take on this? Is this the difference between having a slight smirk and no smirk?

Not the best hero to choose in my not so humble opinion……..

Another point I’d like to mention is the importance of language to a woman, and how you express yourself.

However, I’ll post up a thread about my thoughts on this during all the Christmas hoopla and razzmatazz and shindiggery.

Lux

A good podcast guys and girls, but I think you should only really do one topic at a time, you went from older guys to intant dates.
Both great topics but both derserve their own podcasts.

Look forward to the next one and all the great stuff coming up in 2012.

@yeah
theres more lets say “socially intelligent” ways of giving constructive criticism. i too pick up on when the group gets off topic but there is stuff you also can pick up from their banter. one is notice how they constantly bust each others balls yet they always have a comeback for one another and the vibe never gets negative. shows how none of them take themselves too seriously and they just have fun with it. no need to break down how much time they’ve spent on stuff you don’t care about.

Its actually one of the reasons I only listen to day game.com podcasts. Its because they’re so natural about it. Sometimes its great, most of the time its good but i’ve never heard one of their podcasts till the end and went, that was a waste of time…

anyways take care guys!

You guys should charge for this podcast to stop weird comments like the first one!

Don’t you think you’re being ungrateful, considering that all of this content is FREE?

Get out there and start learning this stuff the hard way (but best way).

so ten minutes on what’s happening behind the scenes, meh… 5 mins on the guy who shoots footage… 5 mins on mini’s holiday in india… meh… maybe i’m border-line autistic on this, but brutally honest, i dont care.

also, and this is possibly me being an old git – i dont really listen for the banter. at times i find it a bit grating (old git alert). just the cold facts do me.

it’s often when someone pre-fixes something with ‘ok this might sound geeky, but…’ that you get something generally interesting (good example in this pod). why ? cos geeky can also be read as thorough – or in-depth. and it’s often the ‘geeky’ stuff where you get down to business and strip things down.

so, yeah dont do yourself a diservice by labelling your expertise as ‘geeky’. (disclaimer i work in IT so maybe this is just me

i’d actually like to hear more podcasts with just Tom and John – if i’m not mistaken they’re the guys doing most in-field training. so they’re on it week in week out – observing and training others – that one you did a few back was the best you’ve done. so yeah, more of those guys.

but yeah still a good listen all-in-all and hope that’s taken constructively as it’s meant.

That being said I understand the ‘win her friends’ thing but I think that your chances to say or do something that would disquilify you are much higher that if you are only 1 on 1. So I can’t agree with this article.

‘Taking small steps’

I think a lot of us watch other videos get all hyped up, and then get into the real world and think how the f**k am I going to do this?

I’ve started to state shift and am making really good progress, I find myself so much more sociable with random people and having a laugh. To the next small step!

& LOVED YAD’S TALK ABOUT PERSISTANCE AND RELATED STORIES

keep this up guys

and I will sacrafice a bull in your honor

Weigh the options and act based on what YOU want. If you don’t mind meeting her friends, then stay and don’t change anything. But don’t stay just because you don’t want to appear unaffected if you really don’t care to watch have a conversation with her friends. Just give out your number and move on.

Thanks man keep up the great work en keep us updated!

Appie

Wahey Tom, can’t wait to here them!

I think what your looking for (pride and confidence) is something thats wishy washy and doesnt really exist. Most of the kids who run corporations were just lucky to have the right ideas at the right time. Its like Da vinci paintings, you can either do realistic stunning paintings or you cant. and these kids are usually born with the gift for these sort of things (and luck). Also people who talk about pride and confidence or usually just talking about a poetic metaphor. ‘Confidence and pride’ usually comes from doing the things you have to do rather than going on a journey to find something that doesnt really exist. As tony robbins said ‘Your only problem is that you think you should have no problems. Problems are gifts, they help us grow.’

And as, John Malkovich said in Dangeous Liaisons: “Keep it up.”

I challenge myself everyday (just turned 22, studying atm), I workout religiously, Im setting up seminars, Im trying to do excell at school, I read books, I improved my fashion style etc etc. but all of that doesn’t seem to change the fact that I don’t feel this confidence or pride because I don’t find it that inspiring. There are kids out there, 22, who own multi-million dollar corporations, who contribute on a deep level to others, I always seem to have similar rules like this built into this. Thus, on a subconscious level there is also the dialectic struggle of challenging myself in order to gain confidence along the way and similarly, I know that I can never feel confident unless im extremely succesful in a lot of areas in my life. It might sound insane, but I can’t seem to change it.

Thus the problem is that I feel stuck, not knowing how to feel proud of who I am because Im not (in my own eyes) fulfilling these insane list of criteria and the world around me largely doesn’t find what Im doing all too exciting (aka they prefer getting shitfaced every weekend). How should one go about this?

Srry if its a bit personal, Im just really confused atm

Here’s a great place to start:

http://www.daygame.com/2011/podcast/the-daygame-podcast-32-anthony-dream-johnson-and-drew-baye-reveal-groundbreaking-new-science-that-debunks-all-nutrition-and-exercise-conventional-wisdom/

When you’re done listening to that, head over to http://www.marksdailyapple.com

Hearing what it did to him, like being in a better mood & having more energy, I definitely believe in that.

I’ve been living unhealthy over the last couple years & it’s really starting to take it’s toll. like I’m tired very fast, I am not as clear minded as I used to be, sometimes even feel depressed. I really feel like this has to do with my diet. I want to make that change and eat more healthy but I don’t really know were to start. could you give me some diet tips?

btw I’m not overweight or anything, I just don’t eat very well.

This video was like a magic pill for me. I am a programmer by passion and as you said I’m always in that logical state.

I am interested in daygame the most. I am going out to meet girls everyday since last three weeks. And as you had wasted 4 hours doing nothing all my three weeks were wasted.

After watching this video I realized what I was doing wrong. I had always tried to shift from logical state to daygame state directly. I love your idea of shifting states “just a little bit”. I am going to try this regularly.. I had wasted 3 weeks as you wasted 4 hours and did nothing…. Seems like it all comes to your own mental state

Thanks a lot buddy…

Anyway, something that Yad mentioned was very interesting and often overlooked. That is, the the focused regimen you need to have when it comes to Daygame. In the past, I’ve fallen foul of this myself – much to my frustration and disgust.

When you have set aside a day (whether that be during the week, or on a weekend), it’s soooooo easy to waste that time. I’ve often ended up spending the night before staying up far too late (watching TV, posting on forums, dreaming of playing for Inter Milan etc), and waking up in the morning far too late and feeling lethargic and grizzly.

Then, by the time I’d hauled my beautiful, perfectly-sculptured ass out of the house, I was running on empty after a couple of hours and feeling drained.

Don’t fall into the same trap, my Band of Brothers. Get an early night, and set your alarm for an early start in the morning.

I make sure I shower straightaway, wolf down some porridge and bananas, get in the mood with ten minutes of amateur porn, then I’m out of the door, pussy-hawking.

Another tip too, that can give a kick-start to your day is to start your morning with a cognac and an espresso.

Awesome sauce.

I’d love to hear a podcast about vibe/sub-communications/frame control. That would be awesome!

Acting different around women you like is natural because you FEEL different around them. Acting around women I like exactly as I would around women I dont like would be in-authentic and the opposite of being myself.

The idea of being yourself merely means being congruent with your inner status – if you like a girl, of course this will show up in your behavior, and why should it not? That is being yourself.

What I think you meant is that you should not adopt a fake persona around girls, in other words a persona that does not represent your current emotional/mental state. So if you like a girl but strive to not show this, you will come off as incongruent and weird. Conversely, if you like a girl and strive to be impressive or show offy, you will also come off as incongruent.

Being yourself means being honest about expressing the fact that you like a girl without fear of her reaction, not presenting a fake persona in any way shape or form, and seeing what happens.

This was the first podcast where I have Fast Forwarded some banter sections!

Could you please write an article about indoor Daygame to make it up to us? And explain a little more in depth stuff (i.e. what you should do different from on the streets), not just the reasons WHY YOU SHOULD DO INDOOR DAYGAME.

TV chat shows are always more mesmerizing when the interviewer is 1-on-1 with the guest, rather than half a dozen different egos sat together on a couch fighting for attention.

this should be done more often!!!!

good work.

Great podcast!

Thanks
Mughat

How often can you do more in this style? Every odd couple of weeks it would be nice. Even just snippets throughout the normal podcast that you found particularly valuable.

Cheers for this!

Great idea, great energy, and professional to the nth degree.

*thumbs up*

Absolutely brilliant. I learnt SO much.

(The podcast before this was good, and the one before that was ok).

Saying what you see is great. It also shows that you’re present and aware of the situation, AND aware of the person you are interacting with.

Top work.

Come on boys, step it up, and less of the flim-flam and more professionalism.

It’s a tough market out there, you need to be offering value, value, value every single time. That’s how your good reputation is going to spread; that’s how you’re going to have more people invest in your bootcamps, buy your DVDs etc.

I’m a 47 year old guy, and I haven’t got the time or the patience to invest in anything else but excellence – my time is precious.

So turn your phone off when you’re doing the podcasts, stop eating sweets into the microphone (it’s rude and unnecessary and second-class behaviour), and if you want to talk about Mini’s tits do it in your own time.

I’m right behind you guys, but you need to take your game up a notch.

Lux

practicle steps
1) enter venue tesco asda etc get a basket. walk straight up to the first employee you see and say excuse me do you know where x item is?

2 repeat step above reward thier behaviour then ask how thier day is going, example: thanks you are one in a million…, hows your day going so far?

3 repeat again but ask silly questions preferably to a girl employee for example. in the beer section say excuse me do you know where they keep the alcohol. this really helps to reduce approach anxiety and into a more carefree state.

4 strike up conversations with lots of people using observations an example of what i do is, in the meat section someone observing meat simply say, Hi is that a chewy one? sometimes give a reason why your asking if you dont have one make it up on the spot, i make a guess as to what they are thinking do this as soon as you see the oppourtunity I try to do at least five approaches each night as i get my shopping

5 by the time you have done all of this above if you see a girl you like its a lot easier to chat her up. do it as you like however i have tried direct openers in the supermarket if you do one make sure there is absolutly no hesistation if that cant be avoided try some thing funny, for example a girl picking apples say Hi! I hope your not stealing all of the good ones! After you have done the above the next night you go shopping start back at step 4

I hope this is of some use to somebody

cheers
Graham

there are too few infield videos on indoor daygame, most of them are street daygame
it would be great to see infield vids of an indoor-daygamer (in malls, bookstores, groceries,….etc)

It felt like three 6th form students having a chat at lunchtime in The Commom Room. Mini’s tits, arsehole licking, crappy sandwiches etc, I mean WTF guys – you’re better than that.

I belong to another forum as well, and I’ve been PM-ing guys on there telling them to check out your site, and your videos, and your products. So you need to bring out your AA-game every single week and not let your guard down.

Time to give yourselves a kick up the ass.

Come back Andy soon.

You kept mentioning TopShop/Gap etc. They all have male and female clothing departments. How do you get around this? Prowling around the high heels and thongs?

a lot of this pod sounded like you all just talking bollocks together after a night out. nothing wrong with that, but not getting much out of it as a listener.

this is only critical cos of the high quality of the usual shows, and is intended as constructive. if i just stumbled upon this as my first introduction to your podcasts, i’m not sure i’d return. that might sound harsh, but gotta be honest.

I’m closer to fifty than I would like to admit, and I’m always wary of listening to younger guys and their…ahem, “PUA journeys” – 99% of them, have still got their mother’s milk dribbling down their chins and just cannot wait to flog us the latest product for three thousand pounds, when most of us cannot afford money for the bus home these days or a first class stamp.

So, as a result, I was very skeptical of Yad when I first started to listen to him. I am of the opinion that 99% of the entire living human population is overrated (and predictable). However, this guy has won me over and may just be in the 1% of the population that isn’t.

I am a big fan of language, and anybody that can compete with me in articulateness and eruditeness, and can twirl out a lovingly-crafted, beautifully-wrapped phrase has got my vote.

So keep up the good work, Yad-meister-general and keep on keeping things direct and simple and uncomplicated.

Oh, and get Sasha in again soon, I miss that cool cat.

Lux.

Cheers tom

There are 1001 dirty things I would do to her.

That voice – as cute as a baby polar bear in a sparkly tanktop sliding down a rainbow into a basket of glitter.

Lux.

anyway Great to see you doing weekly pot-of-gold casts again !

really detrimental to the content. for the first minute its ok, but seriously, totally unnecessary gets really grating after a while.

sort it out fellas !!

I think I probably hold the world record for the amount of time not approaching whilst on my own. I’m going to do a 9 hour stint tomorrow. Let you know how it goes.

Lova ya.

Going indirect just communicates a horrible, greasy, weasely energy to it and a girl can smell that like it’s napalm.

Is that being a man? Is that what being a man looks like?

Not for me, man. I refuse to give indirect houseroom.

was hoping for some of this action!! Mr Fifa Freakout classic youtube vid!! haha

Great article btw, agree with everything written

proof? here http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TWxbEfC9lW8

got lot of lays cuz of this eye contact stuff

Thanks for the great videos – really impressed by the quality of explanations – very helpful and make sense.

I’m a bit confused on the Sasha vs Yad and Andy’s videos, where Sasha, you mention talking about what she is wearing is boring and why would she want to hear about that. on Yad and Andy’s clips it mentions statements sourced ‘from the moment’, like who she is or what she is wearing – which one is best in general? i mean how would one be better for some people and not for others – from your experiences do girls find that boring and ‘i’ve heard this before’ type of responses?

One final question – Sasha – when you do the direct openers and tell the girl what you are feeling, do you then try and make an emotional connnection – becuase wouldn’t it otherwise seem like a builders comment shouting out to girls walking past -just being direct without emotional connection even if you have a chat with her and show you are a normal guy – wouldn’t she say wow – ballsy guy, nice normal guy but what special connection or special was there about our 3 minute chat or however long it was?

thanks again for the material – great stuff. looking forward to seeing more videos

R

Thanks !

I am starting out (5 approaches so far) and hearing that line 4/5 times. I am expecting this to be an issue of calibration and body language that will project more confidence while approaching but this is just my theory.

Keep it real lads,
All the best

http://www.fastseduction.com/cgi-bin/search.cgi?action=retrieve&grp=5&mn=1173233986386819

i did daygame. the first 2 hours, all my sets hook. then the last hour, none of my sets hooked. fuck its a problem with eye contact

While I do not advocate pigheaded confidence, I do not recommend coming down on yourself to the point where you are depressed or unable to function socially… Live with a suitable level of confidence to achieve your goals one step at a time, and constantly strive to improve yourself. There is no magical mindset to cure all self-doubt… Though confidence will make you appear more attractive no matter what. It’s just a matter of whether you truly believe it yourself. If you don’t really believe it and you’re putting on an act, as Alex said, people will realize it. You must constantly work on your state and live pragmatically, because, in your reality and mine, there are no quick fixes.

Achieve your goals realistically through commitment and simply enjoy being alive.

Tom i also went to your daygame unleashed back in july i recalled, I will see you soon.

he is mode one,
have you seen his “spanish nice ass opener” video?, that’s a wonderful direct approach

Should perhaps start a blog, I’m just too lazy!

All gazes have the effect you would expect, try some out and see for yourself. Great experiment in combination with the material mentioned in the article!

If he has improved now, then thats fair enough.

Rob, I have looked at the videos on his blog and they are really good. Look at the catwalk model one if you think he is a beginner!!! This guy gets laid like a rock star. All the videos are evidence. Do you have videos of you?

You are a real inspiration. Congratulations!

Didn’t really get much across at all.

I’m preferring Yad/Andy philosophy…. actually, I’m starting to not like that American approaches that much.. maybe I’m a Brit Thru and thru!

I have a question- I live in Seoul, South Korea, and the prevailing viewpoint here is that direct game does not work well with Asian women, and I was taught this on my bootcamp with Pickup Asia. I actually have never run it because of this, but I’m thinking about running a ‘veiled direct’ approach, which is basically
1) open with something indirect such as ‘where is xyz?’ and then when she starts answering say
2)’actually, I didn’t really need to know that, I just wanted to talk to you because you’re cute.’ It seems like a good compromise- direct, but soft.

What has been your experience with running direct Asian sets?
Thanks a lot man!

My issue … for the 100th time … is that Yad is **NOT** direct. He is an indirect guy. If Yad were to simply say, “Alan is good at doing direct, and I am good at doing indirect,” this whole article and comment section would not be an issue.

The issue is, Yad is indirect, but he fancies himself as direct. Secondly, he attacked MY approach.

Read everything please before commenting. Thanks.

Big thanks Andy for the download link – now I can dl all the podcasts directly without faffing about with iTunes!

That’s why you have to be a little creative and original. You can ask the same question in a slightly different way and make yourself instantly more attractive then other guys. It’s not about using pickup lines, it’s about being unique and observing things that most guys don’t.

Instead of of asking her, “where do you work?” You could take a look at what she’s wearing and say “you must have just got hired as a lawyer for …” Chances are your completely wrong but you will peak her interest and she will wonder why you said that. You can say anything as long as, you have a valid reason why you thought that about her. It makes for a far more interesting conversation.

Real confidence is started from within yourself. You also started to hint at something that I’ve been talking about for a while. It’s the idea that “you are who you believe yourself to be.” If you believe yourself to be unconfident or undeserving of respect then that’s how you will come across.

But if you truly believe that you are confident and deserve respect, then you will project all the actions and personality traits of a confident and respectable person.

Every idea we have about ourselves and the world is nothing more than an idea. It can be changed if we commit the time and energy to think differently.

Thanks.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DS7FqK0qb3U

I was built like this guy when I was 14. I am now 30. The diet is correct but cutting all carbs out is ridiculous.

Maybe I got lucky trainning OL and PL first.

The training advice is crap. You know why people perform warm up sets and pyramid. Because it puts you in the mental framework to lift.

Listen to the real people not people who are trying to sell you a book. Ronnie Coleman, Markus Ruhl, Branch Warren, Kai Greene

David Tate can back up what he says

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g1h3X0sYRmw&feature=player_embedded

Sadly Dream Johnson is selling you that just a dream

http://www.snotm.com/2010/06/blog-post.html

this really is rocket science haha

yad turns around .. “oh she’s fucken hot…”

lol yads my hero

I have a lot of respect for Yad he backs up his interactions on video. Alan philosophy is cool but we never see it in action.

Both interesting systems, but be careful as man the living creature is more important than any style or system.(Bruce Lee)

The whole point
nt of day game is to experiment with a variety of different ideas. Yoshi this site is truly revolutionary as the
pua artists are giving info here that will help anyone approach and have fun meeting girls.
There is no right or wrong way just the way. Approach and try. The whole point to this forum is to try newnthings while approaching women. Hence the variety of different speakers/pua artists.

thanks drew! (andy and anthony too …)

I’ve lost about 6-8 lbs in the last 6 weeks and I’m pretty blown away by the whole thing.

I think it’s a very useful belief that states shift gradually, and it’s not just a question of being ‘in’ or ‘out’ of state.

Nice to see guys coming up with something that’s new, useful and free! Keep it up lads.

direct-lifestyle.tumblr.com

Makes you realise it REALLY is all mind-over-matter. I’ve been flaky as hell this week (although there had been a real lack of HBs here recently!); I will give this a try!

.:.

YES! Bring back the alpha male!

What Ron Judge was saying about not being afraid of what people think about finding out you’re a confident guy who likes girls was awesome. Same for his words on choosing reality over hope. Please get him back for his own podcast!

Raw honesty. I liked when David said: Stop comparing yourself and your results to other people. Matter of fact Direct approach mindset is about being your true self. No need to break your daily routine to go out at night and “sarge” with a bunch of dudes – how lame!

I also like how he stressed being in the “present” not the past or the future when it comes approaching a woman.

Thanks

-from your King

I really appreciate this awesome treasure-trove of free podcasts that you’ve given us here, which is exactly why I am taking the time as an appreciative friend to comment here that I agree with almost all of the negative comments about this particular interview. I am sure David is the legend pua that you have given him claim to be, but I finally had to stop about halfway through because I just couldn’t take it anymore. I think the general gist of this podcast conversation here might go something like, “I have no idea why or how I was so good with women in the past.” .

The question is: Go for it with not such a good energy or walk past her thinking “there will be another one later, I’m just tired”? The world does not stop just because you ain’t ready!

Alex talks about things on the subconscious level, a level that is rarely thought of by a great majority of people on earth.

And I believe that this is a crucial point that people must focus on.

Also, a very good point that Alex missed commenting on is that – How much can a person really like you if you don’t like yourself?

Another subconscious idea – men are leaders while women are followers. Therefore, if we (men) like ourselves (we must like ourselves first) then women will follow along with that idea and like us as well.

Complex comment, but it could be understood if you’re intelligent enough.

Just wanted to thank you for such a great website. Day Game is quite fascinating because it’s not only for days but also night. it’s not about game actually but more about being yourself in the right way. I watched your bootcamp live videos when they came out couple of weeks ago. next weekend I went out with my friends and focused fully on advice that you and Yad gave. Made three approaches and got 2 numbers. a week later I texted one of the numbers and I went out with that girl. Now, I am surprised how much the girl likes me and how badly I was looking for such a girl. AND it’s all because of you guys for giving out the right information to people around the world-I’m from Canada!! so Thank you so much. I owe you guys my indefinite happiness in past couple of weeks

As I much as I’d like to, I can’t convince myself that this guy gets laid a lot

Thanks for the comments on the video and I enjoyed the interview we did a while back. Drop me an e-mail or message on FB some time and let me know how your own training and diet are going.

keep it simple guys, it’s the over-analyzing that makes things harder than they have to be.

Arthur Jones btw was full of shit as well. Everyone who worked under him never followed his advice at the professional level.

If you want to learn then seek proof. The reason people come here is because Yad backs it up when he approaches. Theres no hiding it. Where as guys like Doug are the super slow Jedi’s who talk a big game but never back it up.

Bring on the ‘Daygame Blueprint’ 2morow woohoo!!

Joking aside though him meeting the Greek is awesome for myself and the rest of his students as he is sooooooo focused on teaching now. Sasha’s system is at times genius. Before I met that crazy bastard I trained with most of the gurus out there. Sasha is hands down the best, sorry! This podcast just gives such a small insight into his ways.

yeah, I thought it was funny too, that’s why I posted it.

Rather than provide a direct answer, I will simply ask you this: do you trust your own mind?

As for the rest of your comment … dead wrong, and Doug McGuff (a veteran medical doctor) proves how and why. He does so in his epic book Body by Science, as well as in this free 90 minute lecture.

http://www.the21convention.com/2011/03/05/doug-mcguff-t21c-2010/

http://journals.lww.com/obgynsurvey/Abstract/2008/11000/Weight_Loss_With_a_Low_Carbohydrate,.20.aspx

http://phdres.caregate.net/curriculum/pdf-files/nejm2k3-2074.pdf

However, aerobic exercise can be very beneficial as long as you take care to look after yourself. From a cardiovascular point of view it helps tremendously. In fact the benefits of exercise are so wide ranging (improved cardiac output, improved immunity, better cognition and feeling happier, better sleep). Strength training will not give these benefits. There are risks to exercise – mainly muscular, or with tendons or developing osteoarthritis – however, with the right shoes and rest times and stretching these shouldn’t be an issue. Also fatty acids can also cause inflammation:

http://www.ajcn.org/content/79/4/606.short

What I have learnt in medicine is that there are rarely clear cut answers. When ever someone gives black and white statements i am always a bit skeptical.

I was actually wondering how well mode 1 works when it comes to night game, for instance it can be pretty tricky to use David X style direct game (which is fantastic, no bullshit gets to the point)when facing a group of girls with shields up. Over the last week I approached a few sets both in the day and night but I bottled it basically, by not building enough attraction and didn;t get number closes (which as you said means little anyway), I used Mystery Method openers for these, which is fantastic for opening but also dishonest and becomes harder to switch round to THE REAL REASON YOU ARE TALKING TO THEM. Do you have any advice from with your experience with dealing with girls in groups/sets???

Yad and Andy should probably field test those.

+10 000 000 Man points guys.

The best thing you can do is hang around other people who are funny, witty, and charming and it rubs off on you after a while.

I think this is a great way for guys to get out of their comfort zone, because it doesn’t require them to go TOO far beyond the edge.

im eating eggs, potatoes, vegetables, tons of meat, fish, nuts, drink water only.

ive got a question.

i want more variety, eating meat and potatoes + vegetables everyday gets boring quick. at the same time, ive realized most of food from the supermarket i cannot eat doing this diet.

please, what are some more alternatives for meals? thanks!

also, ive got a question about feeling better.
while i can sleep better at night (i just get tired for some reason which never was the case before), i dont feel any different during the day. which means, i feel normal like i always used to. whats your experience?

Thanks and see you,
Yanizz

I would like to thnk you guys because literally you saved my life. I came to the point where I was thinking how the hell do I get more alpha. I squat over 240kg and can’t approach a women. Men Are scared of me and I look like a characture from Once were warriors. Then I watch Vids of Yad and Yoshi pulling and I was like wow! A lot of us Gym rats are hopeless with girls because we focus to much on the visual not on being able to approach and talk.

BTW Yoshi You helped me go from benching on the incline from 140kg to 180kg this month. The states of mind venn diagrams that you made I applied to weights. It made sense. Super aggressive state for BB then Relax. I used to over shoot my adrenals as I was becoming one dimensional now I draw, game, collect music, read books (reading John lennons bio and the book of Tao atm). You need Yin and Yang balance.

Please what ever you don only work out for yourself. Fall in love with the goal setting and the power you gain from bulking up but don’t do it for women

Once again thnx Yad and Yoshi keep up the life changing work

I have a very large collection of works on BB. Its not that black and white that they make it out to be.

Obviously the diet industry is silly and is where they make $$$$ but you need to be aware that superslow etc is to sell $$$ Nautilus machines, trainers and books.

Simple rules the more weight you lift the larger you get, the more you eat the more muscle you can put on and the harder you work out the more you need to rest.

All the pros eat junk food but keep in mind they do crazy workouts. I eat shit loads of junk but I wouldn’t beable to maintain my size and lift the weights that I do. I am a huge fan of pyramiding and only really hit a BB part once a week.

Also keep in mind in every mag they link you to steroids ads or growth hormones. Ironically I get accused as there isn’t a person who matches my size or strength in the gym of being jacked but they don’t get the basic. Lift Big, eat Big!

Listen to the real people making prgress not the mags

I had bulked up to a huge size where I bench 8 plates for reps and I kind of sold out who I was by lightening up the weights, running and trying to get that six pac look all because a lady that I was intrested in made a comment about it.

It wasn’t me! And when I got down to 61kg from 110kg in 4 months I was miserable and felt like I lost everything that made me, me! Ironically she lost her interest in myself as well.

Did it work for the girl. Hell no!

I have got back my size now and happier than ever and pulling a lot more. I agree with the material be yourself but also take care of yourself.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qhmcJ7Zg5ko

Hope you guys like it

ie:

You: “So where are you from?”

Her: “West Bubafuck”

Ask more questions or make a statement of where your from instead?

@Ethan

“social warming”

What a great metaphor.

@Roy

I like this kind of thinking in stages… it helps to give these little steps a shape, just like Andy did by giving examples on how to actually progress from that left side of the drawing board to the right side. For people who are clueless, it could really help to imagine a kind of path which one could take with those “little milestones” to get from “here” to “over there” and then associate certain things one could do, certain mindsets one could project or certain conversational elements one could try and put into practice… to just keep moving …to the kind of place where you want to be.

@Chachaji84

I totally agree! This “stage shifting” idea is so damn straight forward yet can be so hard to realize …or to live up to. It’s really more like pushing the rock uphill rather than having it roll downwards, which seems the straight forward thing to do, but doesn’t even nearly result in the same feeling as seeing it stand on the top of the hill.

@Tony

“Something that has helped me and although sounds a little nuts is: I imagine every girl who walks past me having freaky sex.”

Not quite on topic, but really fun to read!

@Robert

Indeed, that would be awesome. A friend of mine already enjoyed the pleasure of experiencing Yad for one afternoon and if it wasn’t for him, I wouldn’t even have known about Daygame.com and how exciting it can be to simply rid oneself of this closet mindset of how nobody is interested in you or me or how there’s little point in taking your time to enjoy yourself while simply being quite entertaining to others …yourself included.

@NUGUY

That is so true. If you’re as relaxed in a state as hanging out with your friend, sitting on a lovely bridge, enjoying the sun (set) while watching people go by, chatting, laughing, joking and just enjoying yourself… how could that not want to make you delve into it?

@Coldman

It sounds quite “technical” what you’re saying, but the truth is… it just helps to create the right mindset to be all playful. You’re not asking the time because you care about that or because you desperately need to hit on that girl. All it is, is a little step forward to being free to just do it. Could be the time or pretty much anything to get rid of that initial barrier which not only prevents from approaching the opposite sex (assuming you’re into that) but also prevents from getting to know those strangers who might just turn out to be the best friends you’ve ever had.

@Robin

To conclude… indeed!

Awesome to see this vid explaining it in a very good way. All I knew was changing my goal from: “Doing 1 direct approach today”, to “Ask 3 people what time it is” made me less nervous. And then building it up made it easier.

Great video. Thank you very much for the free lesson. I hope to meet you and Yad one time.

Great presentation! I think like you and many other guys I have had big anxiety about approaching in the daytime but sometimes its not anxiety but either hesistation or I’m getting tired. Something that has helped me and although sounds a little nuts is I imagine every girl who walks past me having freaky sex. It could be any type of girls, nerds, hot girls, fat girls, MILFs and this actually causes a shift in me to keep approaching, infact it worked so well I was able to number close a cute German girl.

Keep up the good work! Let me know if you fancy a change from London and check out Oxford, its beautiful and is absolutely awesome for daygame although a lot smaller than London!

You should do the free webinar again! I missed it lol.

THANKS

Do you have any additional pictures or videos of yourself?

I strongly recommend any books written by Gary Taubes. He wrote the bible on why the lipid hypothesis is total nonsense. He also wrote a short and easier to understand version recently titled “How We Get Fat and What to Do About It”.

Short story: they will have to pickup a book and read.

Also, if you google “Doug McGuff 21 convention” youll pull up a video of a medical doctor backing everything Drew and I said, including high fat intake.

cheers

– Dream

it there any thing specifically i can say to her to convince her otherwise?

cheers again!