Eliminate Approach Anxiety By Changing The Goal To “Have Fun”
Posted: Thursday June 10, 2010 at 4:14 pm
You should never leave the house with the sole goal of picking up girls because this is the fundamental cause of approach anxiety. Approach anxiety is not fear of rejection, but fear of failure. So to eliminate approach anxiety you should instead focus on just going out to have fun.
The whole point of Daygame – or any type of game for that matter is to have fun!
In this video Sasha talks about the kind of crazy pranks that he does, which he finds hilarious, and allow him to get into state, as it enables him to acclimatise to any social pressure and eliminate approach anxiety.
Anytime that you can think of something thats just out of the ordinary and goofy, go and do it; you’ll have a great time, and afterwards, approaching women will be a piece of cake!
In his article about having fun… Sasha talks about a golden piece of advice that a lot of people forget when starting out:
“Whatever was fun when you were a kid, is fun now.”
The beauty of this style of approach is that it automatically distills the women with a sense of humour, from those who haven’t. Like Sasha says: “If I’m not funny to them – They’re not attractive to me!”
So stop focusing on whatever goals you have been, and just go out and do some Daygame to have some fun!
Hope this helps!
Andy
Sasha is the fucking man, MOAR SASHA!
Any chance of making your videos iPhone friendly?
Will be developing an iPhone daygame.com application at some point
I hope it’s free
I listened to the Burger King thing (woo! rhyming) twice and thought… “WOW… douchebag…”
Reason: I work at a Burger King as a manager and it’s never fun when bloody retards come out and make stupid requests and shit…
Then I thought about it. For two reasons, I like it.
It shows that you don’t care, and actually. We do like the retarded moments — it makes for great stories between co-workers. So afterwards it’s enjoyable, even for the BK crew.
Good stuff.
sry, but its the first useless vid. there’s no magic pill to get rid off AA. You just have to do that and approach. You will fail several or dozen of times. But thats the only way that works.
bierbaron,
I agree with you that there’s no magic pill to rid one of AA, but that doesn’t make this video useless. Although it’s true that only you can push yourself past the first step, I believe it is helpful to have a few suggestions of what you can try. That, and Sasha is hilarious!
yeah, but the other videos are much better. there’s some kind of AA-hype here. there’s way too much value given to AA. There are 2 barrieres: AA (approach anxiety) and EA (escalation anxiety). every single psychologist would recommand to just do that shit. there’s really no big deal. You know AA+EA are the main reasons why 90% will fail (I’m 2 years a part of a pu-lair. and there are maybe 10 people that didnt give up). There’s a bunch of other techniques: EFT, affirmations, NLP … they all are useless if you dont get your ass up. the result? keyboardjockeys @ magic-pill-search. and those 90% are KJs. AA is something where nobody can help you. If you arent a man and get rid off AA you will fail at PU and at life. If you are lethargic and phlegmatic PU wont help ya. Even psychologists throw in the towel
The way I see it there are two types of “newbie” PUAs:
- The lot that do make the approach and therefore could use some advice, as given in this vid, on what they might do.
- The guys that are to scared to do it on their own that need a wing or instructor to get through the first stage. In this case this vid is totally useless and they should click the Bootcamp banner.
Hey Andy,
Any chance of a podcast of video on what to do after the bootcamp…you guys did a great bit in a podcast about going to the gym for your inner-self. Would love to hear about it…
not a big fan of Sasha to be honest, never liked his try hard style or vibe. here’s hoping this is the last of Sasha for a looong time.
Sahsa’s amazing – expect much more from him!
Daygame.com is gonna have a bunch of different daygamers, all amazing, but with different styles. You guys can pick and choose who you like
I liked the video! I think Sasha is funny. Definitely energetic. :p
I’ve adopted the Sasha style into my life and it makes it waaaaay more funny. When you’re the guy having fun, taking risks, being in the moment – people just want to be around you
Watch Trigger Happy Tv / Balls of Steel. Wouldn’t you just love to hang out with these guys? This is Sasha Style
This video has something very important in it. Footage of a PUA actually talking to women. Well, sort of. He doesn’t get a response from them, but it could be because they see the video camera. But he is demonstrating the type of attitude you need when you are approaching. I can’t count how many videos say “do this, and this to eliminate AA, but never show it. Sasha has really grown on me. At first when I heard him on the podcast I wasn’t that impressed, but he is awesome! I would love to see more videos from him, especially approaching videos. I think he could pull off some awesome pickups.
I agree. The stuff he talked about in the podcast left me thinking ‘yeah, right’ but seeing his attitude in this video makes me actually wonder what else this guy would do to entertain himself.
I do understand the psychological tool to get guys out their own head with this technique
However, I think most of us look at the bigger picture…
No guy just wants the skill of sayin hello! He wants to go FURTHER than that…
Nice technique though if guys frame it in the right way n understand what u r implying.
Hey!! Thanks for the nice comments guys, and for the feedback.
Emphathy: Cheers man – glad you’re getting the message. Not everyone reacts great all the time … but that’s the point. I’m not approaching girls to get laid anymore. I really like meeting new people and entertaining myself…. so i’m very happy that came across
…. video’s are deffo the way to go. You can’t really put across your energy in an article. Well, at least not the same way. I defiantly will film some more stuff soon.
WHAT?? You thought “yea right” on the podcast? arrghhh hehe … Hmm I guess some of the stuff I’m saying may seem a bit out there. I guess it is… but you don’t have to do the crazy shit I do. I do it because it makes ME happy – what makes you smile? Go out and do THAT shit!
Magician: You’ve got EXACTLY the right idea man!
…. I haven’t watched trigger happy tv, but I’ve my mate told me about it a couple weeks ago, and I just thought “Fuck, those guys are stealing Sasha method!” lol. I’ll definitely check it out!
Brendan: Yea … well…. I do have sex with girls too… go and check my blog (for posts, not vids, hehe) … but being able to get out of your head, relax, and enjoy yourself has to come before “taking it further” … if you’re not comfortable in your own skin and you’re acting all weird – how far do you think you’ll get trying to escalate? Not very …
Shit… really love that you guys are getting stuff from the vid. Will make some more ASAP!
LOVE YOU ALL!! (Not in a homosexual way. In a friends with benefits kind of way)
S.
No worries Sasha. You guys are my fav pua’s. I really think daygame is where it’s at and you are the first bunch that I’ve seen really focus on it. I can’t wait to see more videos from you, and thanks for the personal reply!
True what he says, my daygame have been more efective when I’m really in mood, having fun with friends not just “picking up”.. Hey Andy, whats that direction where I can send u my questions?
That was a wicked video.
Thanks, Sasha. For my part I prefer to do the crazy things while approaching the girl, and if I’m going to get blown out, get blown out in style.
Sasha if you ever head to Dublin, Ireland, hit me up…your shit is hilarious.